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Met a 'very compatible’ eharmony match. Turned out very INcompatible!

Met a 'very compatible’ eharmony match. Turned out very INcompatible!

I joined eharmony a while back and since found a 'highly compatible match’ near me. We talked a bit online and soon met up. I can only say that she was completely (and I mean completely) different to me. Our only similarity was in that we were both intelligent, but otherwise, we shared nothing in common. She was extremely shut off to me, and I tried my best to comfort her, and help her talk by asking questions about her, her life, her dreams etc. but almost all that I’d ask she’d reply with very shallow nervous answers „I dont know” etc. She did not seem like this online. She was very literate online. She also did not seem to understand me at all, and I had to lead the entire conversation with her. During the entire date she asked me three questions. 1. So hows you? 2. So did you come from Exeter? 3. So where do you work?

I don’t hold that against her, everyones different. but she just seemed in such a shell. When i tried to comfort her about her anxiety and shyness she denied she was. although it was blatently obvious. I smiled in a caring way and told her it’s okay to feel nervous, its natural and normal to. but she was still denied it. She wouldn’t even sit back in the bench we sat in to talk. she sat there with her hands in her pockets and her legs crossed. I accepted this and lead teh conversation. I did manage to get her to laugh a bit, but soon after she seemed to go back into her shell.

I am shocked at eharmony. I know its not their fault, but I’m wondering how they could predict she would be a good match when she was completely the opposite! I’m wondering if she really may be a good match for me if we just stuck together and tried a bit longer? Although I tihnk that experience was very scary for her, and for me I don’t feel I could get through to her at all. so we both are a bit hesitant. But if there was a chance there, I’d still see her again.

She seemed to 'hate’ being hugged, although we did

When i have foud myself having an enjoyable chat with a girl, it is effortless because we are both feeding each other with good vibes. And in my experience its not always the fact that we both like a certain hobby or we both like this or that film or whatever. Ive been with girls that are very different to me. But the key thing is that I can chat to her effortlessley and she is the same with me.

Im actually quite curious as to what these websites do to pair you up with your 'perfect’ match? I don’t know what stuff you can put on paper that can garantee you’ll be matched up with someone who you will get on with. Infact your date is proof that it isn’t very good at matching you up.

Try it again with a different girl and see how it goes? If the next one is the same then id be canceling whatever money your paying them!

Either way give this girl a miss. She can’t just sit there and expect you to do all the talking. Quite selfish tbh.. Did she even try to talk to you?

She seemed to 'hate’ being hugged, although we did

When i have foud myself having an enjoyable chat with a girl, it is effortless because we are both feeding each other with good vibes. And in my experience its not always the fact that we both like a certain hobby or we both like this or that film or whatever. Ive been with girls that are very different to me. But the key thing is that I besthookupwebsites.org/muslima-review/ can chat to her effortlessley and she is the same with me.

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